SEX THERAPY

YOU CAN BRING

THE SPARK

BACK INTO YOUR RELATIONSHIP

When it comes to sexual intimacy and disconnection, knowing what will get you in touch with your own desires, pleasures, and satisfaction is paramount to rekindling your love life. Whether the issues stand on their own or part of the broader picture of your relationship cycle, we can work together to get you both on the same page.

CAN’T GET ON THE SAME PAGE

WHEN IT COMES TO

SEX &

INTIMACY?

Do you want to rekindle the passion you used to have for each other?

Are you worried that your partner may drift away because of the sexual disconnection?

Is consensual non-monogamy a path you’d like to explore?

Are you walking on eggshells out of fear that you are going to make things worse?

Are you avoiding each other in the bedroom? Too many “I’m not in the mood’s”?

Is your sex life feeling a bit ho-hum?

THE HOT-BUTTON ISSUE THAT

LIVES IN THE SHADOWS

Dissatisfaction with sexual intimacy in a marriage or committed relationships is a very common issue that is often left un-discussed in and outside of therapy, while entrenching disconnection for many couples. In fact, various research estimate that in the US:

15-20%

15-20% of married couples are in a sexless marriage (having sex less than 9 time per year).

50%

50% of women in committed relationships/marriages report being dissatisfied with their sex life.

Sexual intimacy represents 20-30% of the issues couples report being the most dissatisfied with.

20-30%

YOU DESERVE TO FEEL

CONFIDENT IN YOUR

SEXUAL IDENTITY

& EXPERIENCE PLEASURE.

When intimacy goes from hot and heavy to chilly and awkward, it can take a real toll on a relationship. Sexual disconnection can creep up even in the best of marriages and long term relationships. One couple wants to but after having a baby (or three!), countless sleepless nights, where do they even begin to rediscover each other? Partners may have grown a bit bored from the same-old, same-old, but not wanting to hurt each other’s feelings or afraid to even bring up wanting to try something new, they just silently remain frustrated. Or when pre-existing or newly developed physical discomforts rob you from really experiencing pleasure, you've resigned yourselves to not ever enjoying sex because you don’t know who or how to talk to about it.

SEX THERAPY CAN HELP YOU GET ON THE SAME PAGE WHEN IT COMES TO DESIRE & ENJOYING SEXUAL INTIMACY TOGETHER.

Unlike the day to day communication issues that couples struggle with (“You didn’t do the dishes!”, “Ugh, why do I always have to ask for X?”—you get the picture), sexual disconnection can be the silent killer of the relationship that no one wants to talk about, not even in the middle of a fight. So many couples long to find a way back to physically reconnect again, but in the laundry-list of things to “fix” in the relationship, talking about sex can be at the bottom ("I don't even have the energy...").

Whether sexual desire evaporated first (because of painful sex, a history of low sexual desire, as a result of medical treatments, etc.) or became a victim to the emotional disconnection (“I can’t even talk to you, how can you expect me to be intimate?!”) , at the end of the day, you have lost the most primal way of connecting. So the proverbial feeling like you’re more roommates than lovers really can boil down to the fact that either you’re not enjoying sex together or you’ve completely given up.

HEALTHY SEXUAL

INTIMACY

BEGINS TODAY.

BRING THE SPARK BACK

BETWEEN THE SHEETS

WITH SEX THERAPY.

Intimacy is characterized by 5 key components: emotional, physical, spiritual, intellectual, and sexual. The theory goes, if you can attend to the first four elements of the relationship, then issues with sexual intimacy and desire will be inherently repaired. While that is partly true, it may not be enough to address what can be at the heart of the couple's disconnection.

Sadly, too many couples leave counseling without ever discussing sexual intimacy, even though it plays a central role in perpetuating their disconnection. This is in part due to some of the shame and taboos around discussing sex and intimacy, but also because too many couples therapists do not have the proper training to address and provide sex therapy.

In fact, my training enables me to make a thorough assessment with each partner to help identify what is getting in the way of being more satisfied with your sex-life and create an action-plan to help you get there. Some issues are physical, others sexual, or relational. Desire resides in the intersection of all three. Through safe and open conversations, we will identify where, specifically, the intimate disconnection is happening for each of you and the solutions that can help you get through those stuck places.

Whether your difficulties are about desire, arousal, performance, or general satisfaction, the good news is, frequently, certain sexual discrepancy issues can be resolved in a handful of sessions. I will provide you with solutions you need to experience fulfilling intimacy at all levels. 

YOU MAY HAVE SOME LINGERING

QUESTIONS

  • Yes I do! Online therapy, also known as telehealth, has become an essential source of receiving mental health and medical care. Luckily, we know that online therapy is just as effective as in-person sessions.

    As I am licensed in New York and Connecticut, I offer my therapy services to countless couples across both States and internationally. These video or phone sessions are confidential, secure and tailored specifically for your needs. Plus, you don’t have to both be in the same location to start working on your relationship — online therapy offer great flexibility for couples who live apart.

    For video session, the process is easy and doesn’t require any special arrangements. A few minutes before our session, you will receive a link to the video conferencing “waiting room” where we will meet for our therapy appointments.  Find out more about secure telehealth counseling set up and FAQs.

  • No! Sex therapy is a non-touch, clothes-on, talk-therapy approach. I will provide you with a safe and open venue to talk about what’s not working for each of you. A lot of what we will discuss will focus on providing you with accurate information about sex, sexuality, and broaden your repertoire around sexual intimacy. And yes, there will be exercises that you will explore in the privacy of your own home.

  • Not necessarily. However, my focus is on providing sex therapy in the context of couples dynamics. So while you can feel free to begin conversations with me about sexual challenges you’re having during your individual sessions, the objective is to explore and resolve the sexual disconnect with your partner. ***Please note, I do not work with certain sexual dysfunctions but can provide appropriate referrals.***

  • Item descriptAll fees include session time and notes. They do not include consultations and coordination with other care providers.

    • COUPLES SEX & INTIMACY
      Intake session ~ $625/90mins

    • COUPLES SEX & INTIMACY
      Sessions ~ $415/60mins

There’s no commitment, pressure, or obligation. You get to share with me a little bit about what you’re looking to work on and I can answer any questions you might have about my practice.

Note that I am private pay / out of network provider only

  • "We had never done counseling before, and I remember my husband was very skeptical that the therapy would ever work. After just a few sessions with Ebru, he admitted to me that it was the best decision we had made for our relationship to see her. These sessions were eye-opening to both of us. We have learned so much not only about one another, but about ourselves that we never realized before."

    — Westchester, NY

  • "Ebru is made for this career, it seems to be natural for her, to understand the mechanisms, to see patterns and to find very effective ways to help untangling everything."

    — New York

  • "She facilitated us in a very painful, traumatic time in our marriage and helped us communicate to each other what we knew all along.”

    Greenwich, CT

  • "We had an excellent experience. Ebru was punctual and responsive, while also compassionate and understanding… During therapy sessions she was prepared and engaged. It was clear that there was more preparation and investment than I had experienced with other therapists. We found the therapy very helpful and would highly recommend working with her."

    — Brooklyn, NY

  • "Ebru was not judgmental. She gave us both an equal voice - and calmed us if we needed to pause. She is far above a therapist we saw several years ago. We learned to communicate better and use the tools daily that Ebru addressed with us."

    — Westport, CT

  • "Ebru is warm, curious, interested and inisghtful, providing thoughtful feedback while gently challenging my prespective. She was clear in establishing goals for our work together and was successful in brining awareness to the issues I had hoped to address"

    — Darien, CT

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