INTENSIVE COUPLES THERAPY

WEEKLY COUPLES

COUNSELING ISN’T

FOR EVERYONE

There are circumstances in a marriage/committed relationship that you need more than weekly check-ins. There’s so much to unpack or so little time in your busy lives to make time for a once a week one hour appointment. You believe that it might be many couples therapy sessions before you start benefiting from weekly appointments — and that makes you even more anxious to start couples counseling….

Many of my clients are accomplished individuals with very busy lives. While they had been aware that something must change in their marriage, the additional pressure of attending weekly couples counseling appointments had deterred them from getting the help they needed. Sometimes there was also fear that at the end of a one-hour appointment there would still be too much hurt to take home and attempt to manage on their own over the course of an entire week or two. For others, there’s just so much damage that’s been caused that dedicating compressed hours or a weekend is really the only way to create any change.

OFFERING TWO OPTIONS FOR

INTENSIVE COUPLES THERAPY

1

ONE DAY JUMPSTART

    • A free 30 minute consultation.

    • A thorough assessment and review of your strengths and areas of focus for the one-day intensive prior to starting the intensive (2-3 hours of prep work).

    • One full day of private dedicated time to work on your marriage/relationship without any distractions.

    • Relevant handouts that you can refer back to afterwards.

  • The one-day “jump start” is perfect for couples who want to gain some insight about how they are stuck in their negative patterns, set a vision for the relationship they want to create together and guidance around what each partner will need to work on to create a stronger relationship.

    The one-day intensive can be an incredibly productive way to maximize the assessment period to jump start the couples therapy process . In just one day you cover 5-6 weeks worth of sessions so that you dive into couples therapy with clarity, purpose and momentum.

    The one-day intensive is also ideal for couples who want to engage in Discernment Counseling process without wasting time to gain clarity and confidence about the future of their relationship

2

TWO DAY INTENSIVE

    • A free 45 minute consultation.

    • Four-six hours of prep-work for a thorough assessment and review of your strengths and areas of focus for the weekend intensive prior to starting the intensive.

    • Two full days of private dedicated time to work on your marriage/relationship without any distractions.

    • Individually tailored binders (one for each partner) with the extensive tools and learnings that you can refer back to during, as well as after the intensive.

    • Follow up summary of the weekend and next steps.

    • A resource list to continue building on what you learned.

    • Opportunity to schedule a 90min follow up session 3-6 weeks after the intensive.

  • The two-day intensive is best for couples who have the capacity and desire to learn meaningful tools to create healthy communication. You will gain 4-6 months worth of sessions that will set you up with an invaluable foundation.

    A two-day couples intensive provides you with focused and dedicated time to gain a deeper understanding of yourselves and each other. It gives you ample time to begin practicing and working through some of the challenging topics are sources of conflict.

    The two-day intensive is for couples that love a truly immersive experience and have jointly decided that they want to work as a team to have a more fulfilling relationship.

    Find out more about “high impact” couples intensies featured in this WSJ article featuring my mentor Dr. Ellyn Bader.

READY TO

LEAP INTO

INTENSIVE COUPLES THERAPY?

Are you at an impasse and don’t want to spend months getting to some clarity?

Do you usually benefit more from immersive experiences rather than smaller doses of learning?

Are you longing to getaway for a weekend to focus on your marriage without the daily distractions?

Are you ready to re-prioritize and jump-start your relationship?

Do you have busy schedules that make it very challenging to commit to weekly couples therapy sessions?

INTENSIVE
COUPLES THERAPY IS IMMERSIVE

How would you like to accomplish months-worth of couples counseling in just one weekend to rejuvenate your relationship? Whether it’s your busy schedules or that you want to dedicate your time to solely focusing on your marriage, an intensive couples retreat is a perfect way to immerse yourselves in what needs to be worked on in order to move forward with clarity and connection. During the allocated time, my focus in only on your relationship — I am not coming off of another session or heading into another appointment. I am deeply engaged and devoted to helping you get the most out of the intensive couples therapy time.

When you commit to focusing on your marriage without life’s many distractions, you are not only sending a message to your partner that says “you and our marriage are very important to me!”, you’re also setting yourselves up for success in a way that can sometimes be harder to accomplish with weekly one-hour sessions. In order to gain momentum, most couples require at least once a week appointments; with intensive couples counseling you’re getting all of that momentum within the first few hours. While at the end of the weekend most couples won’t necessarily be “done” working on their relationship, they will have built a stronger foundation that they can continue to improve on with maintenance appointments.

YOU MAY HAVE SOME LINGERING

QUESTIONS

    • Couples who want to jump-start the couple therapy process and build momentum quickly.

    • Couples with demanding jobs and life obligations who are unable to commit to weekly sessions.

    • Couples who are at a pivotal time in their relationship and ready to address specific issues that keep them stuck in a relationship rut.

    • Couples who want to enhance their relationship by taking some time away to reconnect and renew.

    • Couples who frequently travel or live apart for a significant portion of their week.

    • Couples who need privacy and a discrete setting to focus on their relationship.

    • It’s an immersive experience that gives you ample opportunities to learn and grow.

    • A couples intensive provides a condensed and accelerated way to create the kind of relationship you aspire to be in.

    • You get focused attention from me and from each other to build some meaningful momentum.

    • It’s free of distractions: you have one or two full days to devote to your relationship and each other.

    • You’re engaged in a tailored and structured process that provides you with tangible tools to work through any issues that cause stress to the relationship.

    • Read more about it in this WSJ article featuring my mentor Dr. Ellyn Bader.

    • If only one partner really wants to do the intensive while the other is ambivalent.

    • If there’s untreated substance use, depression, ADHD, or other unaddressed mental health issues.

    • If there’s any physical or emotional abuse.

    • If one partner is already done with the marriage/relationship and is actively ending things.

    • If there’s an on-going affair or deceit in the relationship.

  • Yes, I offer a “mini” intensive (4 hours). These shorter intensives will help build positive momentum for your relationship. Think of it as an extended session rather than one that is about processing your relationship. These types of sessions are best for recent revelation of an affair or for couples looking for a tune-up.

  • Please inquire with me directly if you are interested in doing intensive couples therapy. Prices will vary based on length and location.

  • For one-day jump starts I require the paperwork back no later than a week prior your appointment.

    The two-day intensive is much more comprehensive, including more thorough questionnaires and lead time to prep so you can have a meaningful experience. I require the paperwork a minimum of 2 weeks prior to your appointment. So expect about a 3-4 weeks from the time you decide to move forward to the intensive date.

There’s no commitment, pressure, or obligation. You get to share with me a little bit about what you’re looking to work on and I can answer any questions you might have about my practice.

Note that I am private pay / out of network provider only

  • “The couples intensive allowed us to open up about our vulnerabilities in a warm, safe environment. You really tracked what was going on beneath the surface for each of us emotionally to help us make sense of unhelpful patterns in a compassionate manner. The personalized summary that you provided after the intensive is a useful roadmap to allow us to take what we learned outside of the office.”

    — Rye, NY

  • “We entered with hesitation how one weekend could really get to the heart of change. We left, amazed at what we learned about ourselves, each other and some effective tools to guide us in fulfilling improvements in our relationship!”

    — Providence, RI

  • “It was an amazing two days. My wife and I learned so much about ourselves and ways to improve our relationship. A very meaningful experience! Thank you!”

    — Springfield, MA

  • ”Just from the 1 day intensive I think we have already seen such a difference in our relationship, how we treat one another, how we are more aware of our partners feelings and views. I think this has been an incredible time in our lives to pause, take a look at where we began, all that we have done, and now where we want to head - and I feel like we are arming ourselves with the best tools to do it.”

    — Stamford, CT

  • “What I loved was the combination of approaches employed in the intensive, which seemed to shift as the dynamics or needs of the room shifted […] Ebru seemed completely keyed in to what was happening in the moment, and responsive to THAT, as opposed to some preconceived idea she had for how things should go. Additionally, Ebru's invitation to enter the work with joy and curiosity - offering us a way to frame the time as positive rather than onerous - has made a huge impact on us since we left our session. [My wife] and I are mostly feeling a sense of renewed possibility and excitement (who knew) about this journey together - and that is a true gift.”

    — Weston, CT

  • ”We felt Ebru was accessible, dedicated and genuine in her expertise to aid a more fulfilling relationship, including an incredible mastery of the field of couples counseling. She allowed space in the intensive for discovery and pivoted as needed to address the most pressing issues that may hinder our own growth. The prep work and segmental 2-days allowed for expansion, and reflection.”

    — Providence, RI

  • ”The most valuable thing I took from the intensive was Ebru's enthusiasm in conveying that the therapeutic process can be EXCITING–that the possibilities it opens up are ENDLESS. She filled me with hope that no matter how stuck things may be/seem, if I engage actively, openly, and with curiosity, there are no limits to what I can better understand and change. I love that she made it clear that no matter the past/your family of origin, you can develop the ability to flip the script and do something new–you do not have to be "doomed". Her approach is enlivening, exhilarating, and HOPEFUL.”

    — New York, NY

  • “The intensive was truly transformative. It far exceeded my expectations, in every way. My husband I are so incredibly grateful for you and for what you helped us deal with and all you taught us. [...] I have never had a more powerful, productive, transformative, safe and efficient counseling experience where I learned so much about myself, my relationship and how to be a better partner/person with any of those practitioners as I did with you.”

    — Westport, CT

  • “It's been an awesome experience. I think Ebru's knowledge and deep understanding of her field has already given us so much clarity on what is actually happening in our relationship. She just gets it. There's a knowing she has for her work that can only come with experience.”

    — Westport, CT

  • “This couples intensive experience was remarkably thorough, quite effective in addressing the immediate concern and much more rewarding than I had anticipated. Ebru was infinitely professional, caring, and structured in her well guided couple's day. Ebru has a tremendous gift of reframing the dance of two in a relationship and proposes where and why the dysfunction may be happening. She posed questions to each of us, led guided conversations which ultimately pointed us toward the functional and successful path to better outcomes.”

    — Fairfield, CT

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